Episode #87

Reports suggest boys are more likely to be violent and unable to express their emotions than girls. There’s also a great discussion going on about toxic masculinity leading to pent-up aggression, frustration, isolation, problematic relationships, violence, anger, and other devastating realities. It’s clear raising boys today requires a new definition of what it means to be a man.

It’s more important than ever for fathers to be role models and have gospel-centered conversations with their sons about becoming a man. In Between Us Guys: Life-Changing Conversations for Dads and Sons (New Growth Press), author Joel Fitzpatrick shares how dads are given an incredible opportunity to be the primary influence in their children’s lives. By inviting conversations about every aspect of life such as family, girls, love, defending others, failure, strength, and heaven, the author shows fathers how to pass down the message of Christ to the next generation, redefining what manliness means through the lens of the gospel.

Joel Fitzpatrick has served as an ordained minister in the Presbyterian Church in America with a focus on youth and family. He received his MDiv from Westminster Seminary California. He is the co-author of Mom, Dad . . . What’s Sex? and contributed chapters to The Sinner and Saints Devotional: 60 days in the Psalms. Fitzpatrick lives in Southern California with his wife and their two children. Learn more at www.joelfitzpatrick.co and follow him on Twitter (@JoelDFitz).

His book: Between Us Guys: Life-Changing Conversations for Dads & Sons; By Joel Fitzpatrick. Print ISBN: 978-1-1948130-32-5/ eBook ISBN: 978-1-948130-33-2

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Notes & Quotes: 

“Modern media culture reinforces an erroneous view of masculinity, men don’t cry… man up”

“Jesus is our ultimate example of masculinity”

“Men in media usually only show ‘anger’ to the world which is not a safe model for our sons to emulate”.

“Fathers need to create safe-spaces in their homes, a space for sons to express their true feelings without fear of rejection.”

“Most men don’t have friends, they are lacking the option to download their feelings and emotions”

“Friendships need to be modeled, we all need to learn how to process emotion before we talk with our sons”.